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GUY”S ADVICE FOR STUDENTS
#10: Live off your parents as long as possible.
#9 Pursue joy, not happiness.
#8: Challenge the known and embrace the unknown.
#7: Learn to speak a foreign language, play a musical instrument, and play non-contact sports.
#6: Continue to learn.
#5: Learn to like yourself or change yourself until you can like yourself.
#4: Don't get married too soon.
#3: Play to win and win to play.
#2: Obey the absolutes.
#1: Enjoy your family and friends before they are gone.
- Guy Kawasaki Palo Alto High School Baccalaureate Speech 6/11/95
BILL GATES’ RULES
Rule 1: Life is not fair -- get used to it!
Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.
Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.
Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping -- they called it opportunity.
Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.
Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
- Bill Gates’ Speech to Mt. Whitney High School in Visalia, California.
ADVICE TO YOUNG MEN FROM AN OLD MAN
1. Don’t pick on the weak. It’s immoral. Don’t antagonize the strong without cause, its stupid.
2. Don’t hate women. It’s a waste of time
3. Invest in yourself. Material things come to those that have self actualized.
4. Get in a fistfight, even if you are going to lose.
5. As a former Marine, take it from me. Don’t join the military, unless you want to risk getting your balls blown off to secure other people’s economic or political interests.
…. Realize that society steals your contributions, secures it with our intellectual property laws, and then takes credit and the rewards where none is due.
….Don’t take proffered advice without a critical analysis. 90% of all advice is intended to benefit the proponent, not the recipient. Actually, the number is probably closer to 97%, but I don’t want to come off as cynical.
#30. Remember, 97% of all advice is worthless. Take what you can use, and trash the rest.
Do not go outside. It is a jungle out there.
- Rodney Dangerfield to college students, Back to School
My advice to you is take dead aim on the rich boys. Catch them in the cross hairs and take them down.
- Bill Murray, Rushmore
The Wisdom of David Foster Wallace
Here's something else that's true. In the day-to-day trenches of adult life, there is no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshipping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship. And an outstanding reason for choosing some sort of god or spiritual-type thing to worship - be it JC or Allah, be it Yahweh or the Wiccan mother-goddess or the Four Noble Truths or some infrangible set of ethical principles - is that pretty much anything else you worship will eat you alive. If you worship money and things - if they are where you tap real meaning in life - then you will never have enough. Never feel you have enough. It's the truth. Worship your own body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly, and when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they finally plant you.
Our own present culture has harnessed these forces in ways that have yielded extraordinary wealth and comfort and personal freedom. The freedom to be lords of our own tiny skull-sized kingdoms, alone at the centre of all creation. This kind of freedom has much to recommend it. But there are all different kinds of freedom, and the kind that is most precious you will not hear much talked about in the great outside world of winning and achieving and displaying. The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day. That is real freedom.
- David Foster Wallace, writer, commencement speech to a graduating class at Kenyon College, Ohio
RULES OF A GAME CALLED LIFE
1. You will receive a body: You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period of this time around.
2. You will learn lessons: You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called LIFE. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think of them as irrelevant and stupid.
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons: Growth is a process of experimentation, a series of trials, errors, and occasional victories. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately work.
4. A lesson is repeated until learnt: A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learnt it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end: There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive there are lessons to be learned.
6. "There" is no better than "here": When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here".
7. Others are only mirrors of you: You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of life is up to you: You have all the tools or resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie inside you: The answers to life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.
10. You will forget all this.
- If Life is a Game, These are the Rules by Cherie Carter-Scott
"They fuck you up, your Mum and Dad,
They may not mean to but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra just for you."
- Philip Larkin, English Poet
The best careers advice to give to the young is 'Find out what you like doing best and get someone to pay you for doing it'.
- Katherine Whitehorn
"Age is deformed, youth unkind,
We scorn their bodies, they our mind."
- Thomas Bastard - 1566-1618, English poet, epigram-writer and clergyman)
ON LOSS OF INNOCENCE
"There is another more subtle way in which the innocence of childhood is lost: when the child is infected with the desire to become somebody. Contemplate the crowds of people who are striving might and main to become, not what Nature intended them to be - musicians, cooks, mechanics, carpenters, gardeners, inventors - but somebody: to become successful, famous, powerful; to become something that will bring, not quiet and self-fulfillment, but self-glorification and self-expansion."
- Tony deMello SJ, 1931-87, Indian spiritual leader and writer
"Respice, adspice, prospice." ("Look to the past the present and the future."
THE SUNSCREEN SPEECH
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. ..You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you.
- MARY SCHMICH, 1997, [falsely attributed to Kurt Vonnegut's Commencement Address at MIT]
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