The best answer to this question is to deal with myths about shyness and introverted, one by one.
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1. There is a difference between being shy and being introverted.
Ben Casanocha writes after asking around:
Shy means you are uncomfortable interacting with people generally, particularly strangers, whether one-on-one or in a group.
Introverted simply means you are more comfortable by yourself or with one other person.
2. Many extroverted people may be actually introverted.
Dr. Laurie Helgoe, author of the book 'Introvert Power' says "57% of Americans identify themselves as introverts, most of them pretend to be extroverts because the culture in the United States frowns on introverts."
3. Introverted people are great achievers too.
Sadly, in our culture, extroverted behavior is rewarded, and introversion is viewed as some kind of deficiency.
Dr. Helgoe says,
(Introverted people) are passionate observers, and for (them), solitude is rich and generative.
Think of all that goes on in the playground of solitude: daydreaming, reading, composing, meditating -- and just being, writing, calculating, fantasizing, thinking, praying, theorizing, imagining, drawing/painting/sculpting, inventing, researching, reflecting.
4. Shy and Introverted people can practice being extroverted if the situation demand.
The most pressing problem for all of us shy people is public speaking. We can master the art of public speaking by practicing in front of our close friends’ circle or support group.
I started making small talks by practicing it in front of a mirror. I used small, concise sentences. It worked for me.
5. Shy people find it hard dealing with people.
Ben Casanocha sgain: Since shyness results from a low self-esteem, he suggests to focus on believing that other people will get value out of dealing with you.
This, Ben thinks may help in building confidence. Besides, we are all fundamentally alone at the end of the day anyway.
Does that give you comfort?
If it does not work, then therapy may be the answer for you.
Final tip: If you find a person being too unnecessarily loud, he/she may be hiding his/her faults behind all that noise.
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