What most kids learn in school is of little use in the outside world. General Douglas Macarthur wrote this in his "A Father's Prayer":
Build me a son, O Lord, who will be strong enough to know when he is weak, and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid; one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat, and humble and gentle in victory.
Build me a son whose wishbone will not be where his backbone should be; a son who will know Thee and that to know himself is the foundation stone of knowledge.
Lead him I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort, but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge. Here let him learn to stand up in the storm; here let him learn compassion for those who fail.
Build me a son whose heart will be clear, whose goal will be high; a son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men; one who will learn to laugh, yet never forget how to weep; one who will reach into the future, yet never forget the past.
And after all these things are his, add, I pray, enough of a sense of humor, so that he may always be serious, yet never take himself too seriously. Give him humility, so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness, the open mind of true wisdom, the meekness of true strength.
Then, I, his father, will dare to whisper, "I have not lived in vain"
[note: you may find some overlap and repitition, but that is the fate of all lists.]
1. A healthy sense of self-respect and self-worth. (their dear ones let them know that they are loved unconditionally, that they bring joy in life)
2. A healthy self-image. (dignity is deadly - being a self-directed individual)
3. A healthy sense and care for others. (live and let let live - being courteous, being polite, being helpful, being useful, giving respect to get respect)
4. Be more social (without being an oversharer, narcissist, or losing too much of oneself - basically how to make friend and keep them, all this while knowing that one doesn't necessarily have to fit in)
5. Empathy (be in the other person's shoes, understanding other points of view)
6. Manners (where, when, how, and why we use them.)
7. Humility (in behavior and in reality, as in, how vast the universe and history is, and our 70-year life-span in comparison - there were humans before us, there will be humans after us)
8. Independence (Self-sufficiency, handling personal responsibilities and duties)
9. Intellectual independence (thinking for oneself, avoiding groupthink)
10. Emotional independence- not needing approval or excess attention from others, not giving in to peer pressure.
11. Curiosity and Critical Thinking (looking below the surface)
12. Never taking any assumptions
13. Self-Expression in a healthy way (and in an artistic way - books, music...)
14. Avoiding complacency (this is not about the rat race)
15. Self-discipline as a way to get better (and as a way to manage yourself - practicing self-control, meditation, deffered gratification, picking your battles and your priorities)
16. Learning new things all the time (starting with doing household stuff, doing repairs
17. Make new things (in other words, hard work at things you love doing)
17. Self-confidence to do things (not over confidence)
18. Financial savvy (saving, budgeting, investing, earning)
19. Healthy living (lifelong fitness and nutrition)
20. Organized living (time management, supervising others and self, planning things, and so on)
21. Care for the environment (knowing the carbon footprint in all human activity)
22. Be happy (knowing the difference between wants and needs, that one can't have it all, having fun, letting go at times, and knowing that you gave it all you had - you tried)
23. Communicate well (listening actively, talking sensibly, asking good questions - especially in school and of all authority figures, persuading others through argument/negotiation/public speaking/presentation/action)
24. Self-reflection (all action have consequences)
25. Determination (that indomitable spirit - it is what will get you places)
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